Travel makes us vulnerable.
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I’d define most of that vulnerability as passive. In other words, we aren’t often in active danger while exploring the world.
We might face a few scams and realize we’ve been pickpocketed, but the vast majority of our discomfort comes from being exposed to new and unfamiliar situations.
We might not understand what people around us are saying. We aren’t sure if we’re following local protocol. We worry we stick out like sore thumbs while lugging our suitcases around.
Even small things like staring can make us feel like we’ve misread the room.
To combat these sentiments of awkwardness, many travelers take steps to minimize looking like a tourist.
And there’s nothing wrong with that. If you’d rather blend in while exploring cities like Paris and Rome, then go for it. With just a few simple tips, you can pick up how to order a taxi, how to eat pasta like a local, and the real down-low on tipping.
But if you don’t want to study up, that’s okay, too.
Here’s why you shouldn’t worry about looking like a tourist.
5 reasons you shouldn’t worry about looking like a tourist
Reason #1: Basic etiquette is enough
There are a few handy tourist etiquette rules that will serve you well as an American abroad. If you’re following these suggestions, then don’t worry about looking like a tourist. You’ll have a good time no matter what.
If you’re unsure about the etiquette of being a tourist, then take a shortcut with these five tips:
- Try out the local language before switching to English. Even if it’s just a gesture of goodwill, it will go a long way.
- Learn about your destination. If you aren’t heading to an all-inclusive resort, be mindful that you’re walking around someone else’s hometown.
- Smiles aren’t universal. Don’t worry if people are staring, making weird eye contact, or otherwise aren’t returning your smiles. It’s not personal—in fact, they might be shocked to see someone smile without reason.
- Watch the noise. This one should be pretty self-explanatory.
- Be gracious as you learn. It’s normal to get things wrong on the road. Be humble when you mess up. This sage advice has helped me navigate many difficult cultural snafus.
Reason #2: People know you’re American anyway
Americans stand out, mostly because of how we dress, how loudly we talk, and the cultural references we make. We like long socks, we like athleisure wear, we like baseball hats, we like to curl our hair. It’s who we are.
If you’re on vacation to take on a new identity, then maybe you’ll be leaving the American guise behind. But if you aren’t, don’t feel weird about who are you. You’re on vacation to relax, not convince a boy named Francois you’re local.
Reason #3: You might miss out by blending in
Some travelers prefer to blend in—but let’s not forget that people in many countries enjoy hosting and meeting tourists.
I live in the center of Barcelona, which is one of the most touristy cities in the world. I regularly stop to chat with tourists if they need help, want suggestions, or are petting my chihuahua—and I give them good suggestions they won’t find elsewhere.
I wouldn’t do any of that if I thought someone was local.
Reason #4: Your focus should be elsewhere
Don’t waste precious time, energy, or joy on trying to blend in.
You have better things to do on vacation than worry about looking like a tourist, whether getting a perfect photo op at sunset, witnessing one of your favorite pieces of art, or simply unwinding on a beach.
The last thing you need is the stress of worrying whether those khakis make you look American. (They probably do, and that’s cool. What’s wrong with khakis?)
Reason #5: If you do want to blend in, take it slow
If you’re hellbent on becoming a traveler who doesn’t stand out as an American, then I’d advise you to take it slow.
Do some research prior to your trip to learn about important local customs, then arrive with a few factoids in your back pocket.
From there, experience and enjoy your vacation like you normally would. Before returning home, dedicate some time to applying what you’ve learned. That might be buying local clothes that you wear to a restaurant you’ve been hearing about from locals all week.
Remember—cultural exchange should feel fun and horizon-expanding, not stressful and shameful.
